Life Check List For The Over 50’s

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Have you ever had that feeling that time has slipped away? One minute you were 20 years old and starting in life with no worries, no commitments. Then within a blink of an eye, it’s midlife crisis time, you are over 50 and you have no idea where the time has gone.

Maybe you lie in bed at night and ask yourself what is the true meaning of life? Will my life always be like this? When will I have time to do what I truly want? 

In the morning, when you wake another day continues, nothing changes. Many people only truly ‘wake up’ when something tragic happens. By which time it may be too late to find the answers to those deeper questions and start living the life you desire.

It does not have to be that way – you do not have to have a midlife crisis. Did you know you are the sum of your thoughts?
In all areas of your life, you create your reality. That which you give your attention to and focus on daily becomes the reality of your consciousness. 

If you want to change something, you first have to acknowledge what needs to change. There are so many ways to do this, and herein lies the issue, just the thought of finding a direction for change can lead to overwhelm. Overwhelm in turn leads to procrastination. Nothing changes. 

Rocking chairs and Regrets need not be synonymous. 

All it takes are a few easy steps, a simple way of reflecting. Taking stock. Where you are right now and what needs to be dealt with. Then you can move forward and make the next stage of life, the best stage ever. 

The Life Checklist For The Over 50’s

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Allows you to…

  • Give focus to what is important 
  • Confirm areas of confidence
  • Enable curiosity about areas for improvement
  • Define specific tasks 
  • Create a holistic picture for the future
Life is like a Table
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The Whole Table

We can use the analogy of a table to represent your Life Checklist. Your table is the foundation on which to place everything else you achieve. If your table is unbalanced with wobbly legs, your life will also be unbalanced. It will feel like a midlife crisis.

At Midlife it is the perfect time to strengthen your table before it is too late. Let’s break it down…

The Four Legs

Let’s talk about the four table legs first. (Health, finance, relationships and knowledge)

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Health

Just a few extra kilos, sitting an extra hour, drinking one more glass of wine all add up over the years. There is a simple way to measure how your lifestyle is affecting your health.

Waist to Height Ratio Calculator

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Being honest with yourself is the key to health. It will give you a better chance of enjoying the second stage of your life to the full.  Ask yourself do I daily…

  • Eat healthy natural foods
  • Exercise daily 
  • Sleep well
  • Hydrate effectively
  • Breathe correctly
  • Meditate and journal
  • Daily positive social interaction
  • Avoid medicinal and recreative drugs including alcohol and tobacco

Regular annual medical checkups and screenings will also help to verify that you are doing the best you can. As science continues to evolve and breakthroughs appear you can take advantage. For example, we are now beginning to acknowledge that the stomach places an important part in health. A healthy gut will affect all areas of your life. You can have the gut biome tested here HERE

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Finance

Taking stock of your finances is something everyone needs to do annually, quarterly and monthly, yet at 50 is also a good time to look at your finances concerning the next 50+ years. Small steps will always win over last-minute midlife crisis panic.

What will you need ready for retirement? When are you planning to retire? Have you taken into account inflation? Use this UK Pension Calculator to give you guidance.

It is worrying how many people do not have a simple breakdown of their monthly incomings and outgoings and do not think beyond today. 

Today, an average UK citizen will need 25 years to pay off their credit card debt using minimum payments and including interest.  Dealing with debt at 50 still allows you space to plan for retirement.

In a recent UK study, 45% of current retirees regret not saving more for retirement. 

It is also important to have other paperwork in place – legally written will, a Living Will, lasting power of attorney and an end of life plan. Also think about your other accounts, particularly your online presence.

42% of people with a mortgage in the UK have no life insurance in place. 

There is one commonality for all humans. At some time we will die. Having this paperwork in place will give you peace of mind and help your loved ones cope at this distressing time. Make sure they know where it is located. Many professionals can help you will all such paperwork

Finally, to maintain financial flow in your life it is important to give to others. You can support charities in two ways, your time or money. No matter how small your donation is, it stops the stagnancy of your money. That which you give comes back to you tenfold more often than not.

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Relationships

If you lose everything tomorrow what will you do? Who will you turn to for help? Which person will be able to offer you a bowl of soup, a roof over your head or introductions to employment or new clients? Who will you reach out to in your loneliest time? Who will save you from your midlife crisis?

Having a wide variety of relationships means that someone will be available when you need them. Everyone one has issues in their own lives, of your top 100 there will be only a fraction of people able to help you when you are in need. 

We often leave relationships to chance. In an ever-connected world, we are not connected to anyone at all. Making connections takes time and effort. This valuable skill of connecting will overcome loneliness. Western Society has made many individuals so isolated it can feel like a huge mountain to climb. Yet it is a learned skill and anyone can do it when they know-how. 

Story

Take Karen for example, Karen was a stay at home mum brining up two boys until her husband became unfaithful. After divorce, Karen had to find herself. This meant reaching out to new people, to find those she resonated with. At first, it seemed an impossible task. How could she make new friends when she felt broken and betrayed? 

Together we took time to focus on Karen’s strengths and skills. We used Facebook and her local community as a way to begin safe conversations. Within a space of just three weeks, Karen had the confidence to do the work alone.

“Thank you, Kay, I was so scared at first of being ‘out there’ now I know it is not such a scary place. Every day my confidence grows and I feel less and less intimidated. I am so happy to get out of bed every morning, knowing that I can do connect with other people. I no longer feel isolated and alone.” 

Like Karen, many clients are scared of reaching out at first, until they have the simple tools needed. Book your 30 mins Midlife Strategy Session.

Remember that relationships are always a two-way experience. Who will you be there to support when they need you? Does this make you feel happy to know you are of service? if the answer is no, look for new relationships.

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Knowledge

When you reach 50+ you have a great variety of skills, some of them you will take for granted unless you take an audit and acknowledge just how far you have come. Many of your skills you will not have learned at school or university. It does not make them less valuable unless you fail to acknowledge them. 

Once you have your list of skills you can being see new possibilities. Perhaps a hobby that you would now like to change into a career. Once you have made this decision you may notice that you now have gaps in your knowledge. For example, starting a business and becoming a business owner are specific skills in their own right. You will be able to break down your learning tasks to fill in the gaps. 

Now you can share your new skills and knowledge with others, providing you know how to package up your knowledge for others to want to buy it. This is going to be ever more important as we begin living in Society 5.0.

The Table Top – YOU

Now you have the table legs in place you can be to think about the biggest piece the tabletop – who are you? 

For many, the cycle of leaving school starting a family, having kids and living in the rat race leaves them wondering who they are. Is there is more to life now the kids have left home? Have I really hit a midlife crisis?

It is the perfect time to get curious and reflect form where you have come and where you want to go in life. Daily meditation and use of a comprehensive journal will help create the focus needed to decide just how you want the next stage of your life to be. 

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Living the life you desire is possible when you know yourself intimately. If you would like to know more about the simple step-by-step process that allows you to breakdown the aspects of who you are, what you want and how to get there, book a Midlife Strategy session by clicking HERE.

SensiblySelfish time is when you make a daily effort to daily de-stress. Having space to do nothing allows you to connect to yourself on a deeper level. 

About Kay

Kay is The Midlife Strategist, an expert with 15 years experience, guiding men and women over 50+ to live the life of their dreams using simple down-to-earth techniques.

Find out more about your personal 50+ Life Checklist and how to avoid a midlife crisis, book a Midlife Strategy Session here: https://meetme.so/KayNewton

Visualisation, Affirmation Bracelets – Change your life simply

I am a great fan of using  Visualisation, Affirmation Bracelets. They can change your life – simply.

In fact, I make sure all my clients now have one. However, the key is, once activated, to use them every day.

Ask any successful person they will no doubt tell you the same thing.  Visualisations, affirmations and gratitude are the keys to their success. They are habits of all successful individuals.

Below is a short description to visualisation, affirmation. Also, why having a bracelet is vitally important to stay on track.

Visualisation

This is the art of creating mental images for future happenings. In the NOW. Your brain is unable to understand the difference between reality and fiction. By visualising how you want your life to be as if it has already happened – you can create it.

Strengthening your imagination daily will allow you to ‘Dream your world alive.’ Aboriginal saying.

Affirmation

These are statements or propositions are said to be true. Again, it is a way of tricking the brain into thinking that it is already the reality.

The language you use for your affirmation will create your programming and beliefs. This, in turn, creates your consciousness. habits, actions and behaviours. Which in turn lead to success, fulfilment and happiness.

Simple System for Change

Bracelets

The success of any new habit is having a system. Which, allows you to simply incorporate it into your daily lifestyle. Unfortunately, many people fail.  They do not have this vital step in place.

Without a system, you are bound to fail.

The bracelet becomes your system. Each bead allows you to chant the affirmation or visualisation. Numerous repetition allows you to sink the message subconsciously.  Without great effort.

Visualization, Affirmation Bracelets – Change your life simply

If you would like to:

  • Claim your bracelet
  • Learn how to activate it
  • Create the perfect affirmation
  • Perfect your visualisation techniques

All you have to do is book your FREE 45-minute strategy session.

 

 

Ten Happiness Habits – Stress to Success

What are happiness habits?

In today’s modern world we are told that we need to constantly consume in order to create happiness. We know it’s a trap, yet many fail to get out. The want for more: money, gadgets, bigger homes and cars just keeps on increasing. Does all this ‘extra useless stuff’ really bring true happiness?

First of all what is happiness and what are habits?

From stress to success

What is happiness?

Happiness means something different to everyone. It is defined in the dictionary as an active or passive state of pleasure. Perhaps, it is easier to understand happiness when we talk of unhappiness.

In today’s modern society more and more people are suffering unhappiness in the form of – stress, burnout, anxiety and depression. The more we own, the more stress we seem to create and the more we stress the planet. Fact.

We know that we can never be happy all of the time. Life has it’s natural pattern of ups and downs, just like a heartbeat. If we didn’t we would be flatlined or dead. Yet, this natural pattern has been seriously distorted by consumerism and always striving for the next possession.

Statistics

According to the World Health Organization (WHO), 1 in 13 globally suffers from anxiety. Depression is said to be the leading disability worldwide. No matter how much stuff we own we are certainly not happier.

Statistics also tell us that 1% of the world’s populations owns 50% the world’s wealth – 99%, never stand a chance of becoming rich, yet they are told to pursue this goal in order to create happiness. Go to school, pay for higher education, get a job, get a mortgage, stay on the hamster wheel of life until you die. The more we feed into the unequal wealth system the bigger wealth gap actually grows and the greater the debt trap becomes for those without.

Awareness allows you to notice the trends and traps and therefore avoid them. Making sure you habits are aligned with who you are and want to be is the key. See below.

Time Poor

Those that seek and gain riches often become poor in another way – time. Having your own business can eat up the hours. Workaholic CEO’s can quickly become stressed and burnt out. Time can never be replaced, once it is used it will never return. It is important to make sure all your time is being used to create happiness.

Life happiness becomes a delicate balance between pain and gain. As we move into the Technological Revolution, true-life mastery will need to evolve a new set of ideologies – now could be the time to start doing things radically different.

Instead of striving to reach goals that you are incapable of achieving or don’t want to achieve because they are some other person ideologies, take time to change your lifestyle and habits and instead create a life of ease, one that suits you. Make your life uncomplicated.

What are habits?

Habits are routine behaviours that are repeated regularly. Habits tend to occur subconsciously yet at the same time can be changed immediately. On the other hand, maintaining a new habit can be difficult.

Most people fail to change their habits permanently. Habits need a fixed system or framework, a step that is often overlooked. Compound actions, step-by-step, breath-by-breath, day-by-day are the best ways to alter habits.

It is important to remember that human beings are holistic in nature and ‘the whole picture’ needs constant reflection. Before deciding which area you want to tackle first, it must be relevant to all other living areas. For example, decluttering your home may feel like the first thing to tackle when in fact your mindset and the understanding of your finances may take precedence.

The key is not to change everything at once. To begin with one area of your life. Happiness habits are when you are confident with your new ways and ready to move onto the next.

Here’s a question for you…

What if you could live your life debt and stress-free without striving and grinding to ‘succeed financially’, would you be interested?

If you answered yes, read on.

In order to create sufficient abundance, comfort, flow and happiness in your life, you can make simple yet subtle changes in a holistic manner. Daily step-by-step, breath-by-breath happiness habits are the key to uncomplicate life. You deserve to be the best you can be. The world needs you right now – clear through the clutter, create your happiness habits. It is your choice.

Happiness habits are a choice.

Ten Happiness Habits

1. The Mindset Habit

Mindset is the main key to happiness. The mind does not know the difference between reality and imagination. Every person creates their reality. Thoughts lead to feelings which lead to actions, which lead to habits which lead to your reality. Taking note of what you do and think daily is the key to change.

De-clutter your mind on a daily basis in order to make sure you are keeping your mental habits on track. For example, if you live in a world of lack, you will create lack ‘I can’t’ means exactly that – you won’t. You have access to the infinite abundance of the universe and knowing how to tap into its creation will counteract lack.

Also, take time to find your reason for ‘why you are here’ is THE most important question you can ask. This is your life, work towards what makes you happy not what others tell you will.

‘0-thing’ is a concept that is also often overlooked – ‘Everything is nothing and nothing is everything.’ Getting to know yourself, is a fundamental happiness habit.

2. The Life List Habit

When you know your reason for being on the planet, you can create a life list of things you want to achieve. Some people create dream boards with these lists, others create a morning formula.

Whatever you prefer, once the big picture has been established, to achieve your highest potential, it must be broken down into smaller steps. Small steps are easier to take and do not feel as painful, they also allow you to focus in the right way. The focus is the key, when you are in tune with your message you will create exactly what you need, no more no less.

This one step is often overlooked in creating happiness habits yet it is crucial to success without stress.

3. The Less is More Habit

In order to create what you want in your life, you will actually need to eliminate something first.

For example, You can’t go backpacking around the world easily with a 20 kg suitcase – removing stuff until your pack weighs 7-8 kg will make the whole experience more amazing. I first downsized to 20 kg to spend a few years in Zanzibar and then decided to walk The Camino de Santiago in Spain. When I came back to Mallorca, I realised 20 kg was far too much!

Looking at your Life List, you will see that in order to achieve your goals you will have to eliminate other actions in order to create the necessary space for the new. Remember, the only way you can add to your life is by subtracting something else.

4. The Health and Wellness Habit

Without going into diets and fitness regimes – all that it is important to state here that if you fail to look after your body, you will have no-where to live. Fact.

Daily exercise is a habit that supports your body and helps it function well. Choose which exercise to do and then block off time to make sure you do it. I love to walk. Not having a car means that at the moment I have to walk every day. Not only does it keep my body active it gives me time to think.

Your body is you – fuel it well.

Just like a car, the fuel you give to your body will optimise its function – or not. Although we use food for social interaction it is important to make sure over a period of time a week/month/year, you have fed your body the right amount of nutrients (fuel) it needs to function optimally. Fact.

Taking time out from life, is a must many forget. Even if it is just a mini-me moment. Spending time in nature, doing ‘0-thing’ meditating/visualising the future you want to have all help you create the life you want to lead with flow and ease. Rest is a vital part of health and wellness. Fact.

A relaxed life becomes a permanent vacation.

5. The Time Saving Habit

We are aware that in this lifetime, time is our one limited resource. Whether you are rich or poor – we have just this lifetime on the planet. Often we waste our time, doing endless mindless actions. Whether it’s sitting in bed and watching TV, constantly checking a mobile phone, allowing work associates to barge in and stop the workflow. The list is endless.

Awareness is the first step to take back control of your precious time. Find ways to constantly improve the way you deal with wasting time.

Cognitive Psychologist George Miller states that in order to keep the short-term and long-term memory happy we can only cope with +/- 7 projects at any one time. Make it a habit to keep to the magical number 7 always.

6. The Wealth Habits

Hoping to win the lottery, X-Factor or Love Island are not included in wealth habits, nor is expecting to make millions by just putting out an intention. Money is an energy resource often misunderstood and often a taboo subject – make an effort to learn about your wealth.

Wealth happiness habits are knowing exactly where you are today and planning a strategy to change your habits in order to create a meaningful life without the stress of debt. Getting rid of debt is one of the most important keys to happiness.

Always know your numbers

Having a credit card and maxing it every month will never make you happy. Creating a Profit Plan, to encompass what you OWN and what you OWE is the key. When you have the proof, you can begin to add decisions to your Life List which will allow you to make money work for you.
What is your ‘enough’?

Check out Brandon’s story.

7. The Lifestyle Habits

This is a huge section yet a valuable one to spend time on and create your happiness habits. Ask yourself constantly ‘Is there another way? Is this right for me?’ For example…

  • Is being tied to a 45-year mortgage what I really want to do in my early 20’s
  • Do I really need a car?
  • What will I gain from travelling around the world or staying put?
  • Is giving objects as gifts, the best solution?
  • What would it feel like to own a basic wardrobe and donate the rest?
  • Is my environment helping or harming me?
  • Is my cluttered space cluttering my mind?
  • What alternatives are there buying the latest gadgets?

Add your own thoughts here. A list of 100 questions, will get your mind on your side!

8. The Modern Technology Habits

We have all watched it, we get on public transport, go out to a restaurant, even to the beach and you watch other people glued to their mobile screens. Any ping and the screen has to be checked and Emails must be answered immediately. Yet what is it truly costing you?

I once sat on the most pristine white beach in exotic Zanzibar, watching the sunset, enjoying a delicious Michelin style meal in wonderful company. A Japanese guest sat at the next table watching his screen constantly – what a waste!

The first is to become aware of the time you are wasting and use this information to create space by regularly ‘switching off’. Add to this a once a month de-cluttering of your computer. Delete old, files, emails and programs. Do the same with your mobile phone.

There is a tremendous amount of cyberspace weight sitting on your shoulders and holding you back. You may not be able to see it, yet it is a constant drain of the flow of energy and happiness.

9. The Habit of Good Relationships

Who you hang out with on a daily basis will affect your performance – fact. Negative family, friends, significant others and work colleagues will all influence your stress and happiness levels. If you cannot leave them behind, then at least spend as little time as possible with them.

Part of the issues many have with relationships is the lack of great communication – a habit that needs nurturing and practising daily. This will be one of the fundamental life skills as the world moves forward. Make sure people understand you and practice listening to them.

One aspect of the relationship code that many people fail to leverage is that of getting help from others, a mentor or coach, a mastermind group can help you harness the value of collective wisdom and create the life you want without having to learn the hard way.

Learn how to collaborate and help others the more you serve the more positive and meaningful your life will be.

THE most important relationship is the one you have with yourself, therefore Love thyself always. Never forget to be Sensibly Selfish.

Put the oxygen mask on first

10. Good Working Habits

Repetitions, systems, coaching, mentors, accountability and the right team to support you, will help you create better work happiness habits. It may sound left-brained and boring, yet it has worked for thousands of people over thousands of years and all are good habits to maintain even as life changes around you.

Constantly check that you are actually being productive rather than just busy, however, in order to know this, you will need to measure your output. This can be extremely important as a solopreneur or entrepreneur and consequently, just as equally important if you wish to prove your worth to your employees and keep your job as the technological revolution gains pace.

Prepare to look for the simple solutions to everything – always ask WHY? For example…Why…

  • Do I need to build an online funnel for my business?
  • Does is this have to be so complicated?
  • Do I spend so much time on facebook?
  • Is this so confusing?

The more you can use critical thinking and answer questions like those above the more valuable you will be to the future of the planet.

Finally

Data tells us that 95% of the world’s population does not have the capability or desire and drive to become millionaires. Living in the modern world is making people unwell and miserable, however, there is nothing to stop 95% of the world’s population changing their habits. Holistically creating ‘enough’ in their life will depend on their meaning of enough.

‘Enough’ to create happiness in life, is all about simplifying all aspects and eliminating complexity. Having life clarity will reduce stress.

If you want to know more information on how or where to start creating your happiness habits or want specific help in any of the above areas, contact me or  Book a free 45-minute clarity session.

The 0-Thing Retreat September 2018

Kay Newton hosted this event for the  Silver Tent.

The Silver Tent brings women over 50 together from around the world, to develop our innate wisdom, re-ignite the passions we may have hidden away and help each other to dust them off and make them shine again.

It was an opportunity to spend a few days together in beautiful surroundings to have deeper conversations, make lasting connections, and create magic.

There was no written agenda, just the space to enjoy Yorkshire and each other. The concept was to leave space for the magic to happen, get to know the other attendees and just have fun. Think: Sensibly Selfish, You’re worth it, Connect to nature, Getting away from routine to recharge your batteries and any other way you would like to describe it.

Testimonials:

Sue  – ‘I loved the Spontaneous nature of things. The weekend was an opportunity to meet with authentic women who gave much joy and laughter.’

Francesca – ‘I loved the relaxed no-agenda time with such a gorgeous group of women. The weekend was perfect. An effortless flow of conversation and meals in beautiful surroundings. This had everything we could want for a ‘country home’ weekend with no pressure to be anything other than we are. A perfect weekend of wild, wonderful and wise women being real.’ 

Beverley – ‘0-Thing organised by Kay Newton on behalf of The Silver Tent was a rich and lively weekend in the company of juicy, inspiring and talented women, which offered food for the body, mind and spirit. A co-creation of organic loveliness. Highly recommended.’ 

Vanessa – ‘Thanks Kay for constantly exceeding expectations and for the opportunity to experience this new level of Silver Sisterhood. Thank you.’ 

Tamara – ‘The outstanding element for me was/is the trust that Kay had in the ability of our participation to engage with each other with the gentlest of tweaks by Kay on the ‘prayer wheel’ of our gathering; this led to each of us feeling relaxed and finding our natural rhythm and affinities with the place, the group and ourselves. So organically evolved and sweetly facilitated – facilitation made easy. Thank you for your ever tender care.’ 

Kulwant -‘I am honoured to have been in the company of such beautiful souls. I enjoyed it all and chilled. I look forward to sharing more online and offline with all. Thank you dear angel for organising.’ 

Pat – ‘I wasn’t sure what to expect from the 0-Thing Retreat and I was delighted when it turned out to be such an enriching experience. I had time and space to meet and talk to some amazing women. The venue is in a beautiful location. Let’s do it again – soon!’

Judith -‘Sometimes we need a little time out for ideas to emerge and connect. This weekend was like pressing a pause button in life and sharing time with wonderful women.’ 

Tracey – ‘0-Thing is so full of good company, ideas, inspiration, and laughter. Creating spaces where we can all be ourselves, together, sharing, seeing what happens…laughter and ease results! Kay created this space with such love and care. Thank you so much Kay!’

Ellen – ‘Kay did an amazing job organising a great fun weekend. I so enjoyed myself’. 

Suzi -‘If you are drawn to the idea but are hesitating, just ‘go for it’. So glad I found the courage. Allows so much more to unfold than meeting online exclusively.’